A week after we married almost forty-eight years ago, my father-in-law sent us a letter urging us to have fun now because soon “the stale familiarity of marriage” would set in. In his own peculiar way, his heart was in the right place. We often repeat the phrase and are still having fun.
I have often seen familiarity breeds contempt, but it would be better to say familiarity breeds indifference.
Alie’s father wasn’t totally wrong. The more familiar we are with a person, a place or an activity, the more likely we are to take them for granted. We fail to really hear, see, or otherwise sense in an active way.
Many Americans have seen London, Paris and Rome who have not seen Yosemite or Yellowstone let alone our Midwest.
Do couples grow apart or do they just grow indifferent?
The self-help gurus tell us to try to see “with the eyes of a child; see as though you were seeing for the first time; look with wonder.”
As one gets to a certain age, you begin to experience more limitations in life. We love travel; how long will we be able to do this? We just visited Sam; how long will he be with us?
Despair and grief are not solutions. A better answer lies in another trite guru statement: “live in the moment.” Open your senses now to experience what and who is in your life.
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