Familiarity breeds indifference.

A week after we married almost forty-eight years ago, my father-in-law sent us a letter urging us to have fun now because soon “the stale familiarity of marriage” would set in. In his own peculiar way, his heart was in the right place.  We often repeat the phrase and are still having fun.

I have often seen familiarity breeds contempt, but it would be better to say  familiarity breeds indifference.

Alie’s father wasn’t totally wrong.  The more familiar we are with a person, a place or an activity, the more likely we are to take them for granted.  We fail to really hear, see, or otherwise sense in an active way.

Many Americans have seen London, Paris and Rome who have not seen Yosemite or Yellowstone let alone our Midwest.

Do couples grow apart or do they just grow indifferent?

The self-help gurus tell us to try to see “with the eyes of a child; see as though you were seeing for the first time; look with wonder.”

As one gets to a certain age, you begin to experience more limitations in life.  We love travel; how long will we be able to do this?  We just visited Sam; how long will he be with us?

Despair and grief are not solutions.  A better answer lies in another trite guru statement: “live in the moment.”  Open your senses now to experience what and who is in your life.

I was fascinated by my first gecko; but at some point he became just another -- Geico?

I was fascinated by my first gecko; but at some point he became just another — Geico?

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About ralietravels

Ray and Alie (Ralie) are a retired couple who love to travel. Even during our working years, we squeezed a trip in whenever we could, often when we had to stretch the budget to do so. We have been fortunate to vacation in all 50 states, all the provinces of Canada and one territory and a little more than 50 countries. We like to drive, but we particularly love to travel back roads to find unusual sights, people, and experiences.
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7 Responses to Familiarity breeds indifference.

  1. JohnRH says:

    Well written, well said, and best of all, ‘thought-provoking’. Self-reflection does anyone good from time to time. Be well and keep reflecting.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. So true, all of this. Funnily enough many of my friends here in London (UK) have been to NYC and Las Vegas, but have never visited the English Lakes or the Scottish Highlands – even more remarkable when one realises how small the British Isles are relative to somewhere like the States.h


  3. Keith and Loraine says:

    I love the philosophy and although I never met Michael Cargan, I did talk to him on the phone once. He was very nice and I can just about see that conversation you mentioned. Thanks for sending it and it kind of woke me up to some things. Love to you and Alie. Loraine


  4. N N says:

    Another good article! Enjoy Super Bowl!

    Sent from my iPhone


    Liked by 1 person

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